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Thursday, February 10, 2011

When Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Equal Sex

Article reference:
Viagra demand surges before Valentine's Day

The above article led me to find it interesting that the thought of sex on Valentine’s Day has never crossed my mind, yet I’m sure there’s probably not many peer guys of mine like that. I guess because you go so long with the impossibility of having sex, the mental position of abstinence becomes the default mode; both consciously and subconsciously. Valentine’s Day has never included in my brain the possibility of having sex. Hmm.

Which sort of reminds me when I was in high school and friends of mine were talking about senior Prom plans. It actually was going to be my first date so that alone was anxiety-inducing enough, but when a classmate of mine asked me and the girl I was taking if we were getting a hotel room for afterwards I looked at him not in disgust or offence (though in retrospect I probably should have)…more in utter befuddlement. The inevitability of just touching this girl while dancing was traumatic enough for me to think of as is…the thought of doing something more like sex, which I guess “are you getting a hotel room” implied, was so far off my radar I had a better chance of navigating to the Dagobah system. Sure the plausibility of having actual sex with a girl has had its fair share of tangible opportunities over the years since, but I still never have consciously thought “maybe I’ll have sex tonight.” Since childhood that thought has never crossed my mind other than in the context of a wedding night. I guess it is possible to no longer conform to the pattern of this world...




Always feel like I need to qualify all my posts with this one:
Everybody Makes Mistakes: Why We Are All Sexual Miscreants

8 comments:

  1. I have a theory about this whole Viagra thing. It has to do with a concept called the "Coolidge Effect". The monogamous male needs help from chemistry to "maintain" the monogamy if you catch my drift. In other words, when the lack of new receptive mates has been eliminated, either by social mores or other means, "chemical assistance" is required to maintain the monogamous relationship, hence the rise in use of Viagra during the Valentines Day.

    If you don't know what the "Coolidge Effect" is then I suggest you read up on it here...

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

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  2. Well I don’t see much support (though I’m not discounting it) between the monogamous male and Viagra consumption theory you propose (if they did a study on these consumers as related to the article I’m sure they’d find an eclectic mix of sexual lifestyles) but I am in agreement of the natural polygamous tilt the human male has as this “Coolidge effect” proposes. I’ve adamantly supported the notion that we males are inherently pulled toward multiple sexual encounters and the often tongue-in-cheek assertion that we’d have sex with anything with breasts and female genitalia isn’t that far from the truth.

    That said, to reduce or suggest our homo-sapien capable moral compass is comparable to that of a rat’s is not only offensive, but if the Coolidge effect is promoted to try to justify polygamous sexual relationships, in or out of marriage, than that is just downright @$$hole-ish. Not saying you are promoting it for that ideal, but just saying it is a dangerous path to try to use the results from clinical tests and experiments on non-spiritual, amoral creatures, no matter how close biologically, to justify human actions where moral choice is most certainly present.

    Cheers!

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  3. Why would you post pretty much the same thing twice Anon? Please remain coherent.

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  4. I seemed to have missed all the updates on here until now. I was pleasantly surprised to find I had a few posts to catch up on. As always, good stuff Keith.

    Oh, and I don't think anyone would be opposed if you just got rid of the irrelevant comments.

    Keep up the good work, and can't wait to read your book!

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  5. Thanks Alicia...haha yeah I prolly post to this site more lately because it's so easy to upload new content. I actually have a bunch of written and half-written EbbWorld articles just sitting in a folder waiting to be edited and uploaded. Lol, I need an intern or something.

    Anyways, yes I’m sick and tired of the pseudo-spamming going on here. I’m probably going to change the commenting ability to only registered users. I can’t stand all this crap-ola anonymous posting. I thought it’d promote more thoughtful responses from people that may not want to reveal their names, but just have been getting off-topic, irrelevant banter. I don’t mind differing opinions, but if you can’t present that thought coherently then I don’t need that.

    Thanks for reading! :)

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  6. It's because I'm black. Right?

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  7. @ Swamee

    What are you talking about? If you posted those off-topic or inappropriate posts I removed from before, they were removed for those very reasons.

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